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  • Melissa Pearcey

What is 'Closing of the Bones' Ceremony

Closing of the Bones can be a great way to find closure after birth.


In many cultures, there is a confinement period, a time when the new mother is looked after and nourished and helped to heal; Closing the Bones is a part of that. Closing of the bones originated from Ecuador and is culturally used throughout Mexico using the ‘robozo’ technique.


Most cultures around the world have an innate understanding of the vulnerability of a new mother and the need for her to be cared for and nurtured to recover from growing and birthing her baby.


Many of the postpartum traditions include nourishing foods and a period of confinement, and some kind of bodywork technique, ranging from massage, to binding with a cloth, helping the new mother regain her strength and energy.  These practises seem so global and multicultural. Surely there is some wisdom in them, so why have we forgotten them? 


Our hope is that one day enough women around the country will have heard of this lovely and important ritual and expect to receive it after birth.


African Proverb….“Being pregnant and giving birth are like crossing a narrow bridge. People can accompany you to the bridge. They can greet you on the other side. But you walk that bridge alone”.  Closing the Bones is a blessing and honouring this warrior mother who may have come to the birth altar for the first time- but is as important for the mama birthing her 2nd, 3rd, 4th……


The Process


Many women find that when they have given birth they feel ‘broken open’.  The body, mind and spirit have to open and let go from a deep place to bring a new soul into the world. We open ourselves to the most dramatic life experience and sometimes traumatic experience.


The ritual also helps close a new Mother energetically, as both pregnancy, and the intense process of labor and birth, can be very vulnerable times for a woman, psychologically and psychically.

The pelvis is a complicated piece of engineering; with bone, muscles, ligaments, tendons and fascia helping both stabilise the body and allow for motion.


When the body suffers a trauma, our instinctual reflex is to clench these deep muscles. The problem is, we don’t let go. These unresolved emotions and trauma can be felt upon the hips as adrenalin crystals, that are released during the massage.


During pregnancy, the hips, open, becoming wider and wider to accommodate the growing baby and prepare the body for birth.  It is vitally important to help the hips close post birth, otherwise, mothers suffer from pelvic instability as a result.



The Ceremony


The Closing of the Bones Ceremony is designed for mothers from postpartum and beyond. The ceremony is open to all mothers at any time who wish to find some closure for themselves no matter how old your child is.  It can also be performed on women who haven’t birthed but wish to close something else in their life.


I offer an intimate Closing Of The bones ceremony to just the new mum or a full closing of the bones ceremony, which can be attended by your closest female family and friends who will take an active role in the ceremony. 


You’ll receive a beautiful holistic herbal compress postpartum massage for 60 minutes, followed by the ‘closing of the bones’ ceremony with meditation. Lastly, a rejuvenating Yoni Steaming treatment allowing the aromatic steam containing a variety of revitalising yoni herbs to reconnect with your body and detoxify the womb and remove toxins from the body.


Beyond the physical aspect of closing the bones, there is also a spiritual aspect to the treatment, which provides a safe space/ritual for the mother to feel nurtured and release emotions associated with the birth and motherhood.  As we honour her belly and hips, where she grew her baby, is a profound moment, for both giver and receiver.


We can’t wait to have you.


Click here to find out more about our Closing of the Bones Ceremony and how it can help you or a friend in need.


Mel xx